Have tensions mounted since the coronavirus has forced the two of you to be together more? Has communication turned into fighting or withdrawal?
Does the relationship feel like way too much work—and you don’t see evidence this is going to change?
Does it seem like you can’t stop the cycle of anger, blame, arguments and withdrawal?
Is your relationship starving for affection, romance or passion?
Are you wishing to deepen the relationship, the closeness and the intimacy that once made your relationship so special?
When any of these occur, it’s time to make some important changes in your relationship. A change where the two of you are able to effectively communicate, work through conflicts in a skilled way and be able to be genuinely affectionate with each other.
We will create an environment where you feel listened to, valued and empathized with. A marriage where you are able to talk through conflicts, disagreements and hurt feelings, and come to an agreement that both of you can say “yes” to. A relationship that allows you to right the wrongs of the past and repair breaches of trust. A marriage that values each partner’s happiness and the well-being of the relationship.
Wherever you live, I’d like to invite you to Maui for a 3 or 4 day relationship retreat that will likely be the most important step you take to repair your marriage—surrounded by the Pacific Ocean in one of the most memorable and sought after vacation spots in the world. Afterwards, consider extending your stay in Hawaii so you can swim, snorkel, surf, scuba dive, visit Haleakala Volcano, or dine at some of the many world-class restaurants nearby. It might even become a second honeymoon for the two of you.
Create a first-class relationship
One where you feel listened to, understood and respected.
Learn how to…
- Repair what’s wrong in your relationship
- Reconnect with each other
- Communicate effectively
- Resolve conflicts
- Reduce anger, arguments, withdrawal and mean-spirited comments
- Begin to heal trust
- Put romance and passion back in the relationship
- Reduce tensions between the two of you
It’s never too late to fall back in love.
It’s never too late to repair what’s wrong and create the close, connected relationship you want.
Call me today at (720) 331-5564 for a complimentary phone consultation.
Unlike other couples therapy enterprises that connect you with less-qualified phone operators and bounce you around, when you call my office, you’ll speak to me. I work directly with couples from start to finish, so you don’t have to repeat your story multiple times, and you can decide right away whether I’m a good fit for you.
This is much quicker than marriage counseling sessions
An intensive weekend or weekday retreat offers you the opportunity to repair hurt, anger, lack of communication, breaches of trust or disconnection much more rapidly than weekly marriage counseling sessions. Each day of the retreat lasts 5 hours, and we will all decide when we want to break for lunch. A 3-4 day retreat is roughly equivalent to 5-6 months of weekly marriage counseling appointments, and I have found it to be so much more effective because we have the time to get right down to the core of the issues—and then create solutions to those issues. For any relationship in crisis, anger, or hurt, it’s a remarkably quicker way to repair what’s wrong.
Frequently a couple who has been together for years slowly loses their closeness, their friendship, the excitement of being together and their passion for each other. Conflicts, disagreements, hurtful words, angry fights, threats, betrayals of trust and emotional withdrawal begin to damage the closeness and the connection between a couple who was once extremely close and connected.
One of the most positive results of a marriage retreat is the renewal of closeness, the regeneration of connection and the reopening of communication channels. I will guide you to learn and practice powerful ways of effectively communicating with each other, as well as indispensable techniques in how to resolve conflicts, disagreements or hurt feelings. Our goal is for your relationship to regain the connection, trust and closeness you once had, and to strengthen the bond between the two of you.
I have two main goals during your marriage retreat. The first is to help the two of you regain your closeness and connection. The second is to instruct you about what I’m doing and how I’m doing it, so you will be able to take these skills home and use them on your own—so you hopefully won’t need additional professional help in the future.
A marriage retreat (also known as a marriage intensive, marriage counseling retreat, marriage refresh, or marriage boot camp) lasts either 3 or 4 days. The length of your retreat will depend on the severity of the issues in your relationship and how much time you can spend in Hawaii.
What does a Marriage Retreat include?
The specifics of your marriage therapy retreat will be hand-molded and customized to the issues or conflicts in your relationship, and as a result, every retreat is unique. This is a private retreat only for the two of you—I do not do group therapy sessions. We might work on communication, conflict resolution, trust, learning more effective ways of expressing anger or hurt, affection and romance—to name a few. But a marriage retreat will also include intensive assistance with specific problems or emotions unique to your relationship. The goal is to eliminate or reduce the power of those issues, and to forge agreements between the two of you so that those issues are reduced or extinguished entirely. See schedule for some of the activities that are often included in the retreat.
Each person will also receive a complimentary copy of my nationwide #1 bestselling book that has become the definitive marriage do-it-yourself manual on improving your relationship: Love, Sex and Staying Warm: Creating A Vital Relationship. This book has become like a bible for people interested in improving their relationship skills, or who seek relationship assistance or advice. There is also a working lunch built into the retreat, where all three of us go out (or order in) and get something to eat.
Why not go to regular Marriage Counseling?
1. You need more intensive counseling in order to help stabilize your relationship.
There may be several reasons for this. It may be that you’re trying to recover from an affair or any other betrayal of trust. It may be that you’re caught in repetitive arguing or conflict that you can’t get out of. It may be that there is so much anger in your relationship that you can’t talk about and resolve issues anymore. It may feel that you are headed toward a divorce/break-up if you don’t do something fast, effective and in-depth.
2. You don’t live in Maui and repeated sessions over time would be too difficult or expensive.
More than 85% of the couples who do my marriage counseling retreat come from out of town, and most typically stay at one of the nearby hotels.
3. One (or both) of you are not sure you want to remain together, but you need to co-parent or work together.
In this case, you must learn how to talk, negotiate and deal effectively with each other.
4. Trust has been ruptured and you need it repaired quickly.
You may not have the luxury of going to couples counseling for months on end to fix what’s wrong. You may need a more intensive marital therapy retreat in order to more quickly repair what’s broken.
How is this different from a Marriage Workshop or Marriage Conference?
Private, personalized attention
In a marriage workshop or couples workshop, you have 5, sometimes 10 or more couples attending at the same time. Everyone gets the same approach and the same exercises, regardless of what issues brought you in there. In a Hawaii Marriage Retreat, it will only be the two of you—there will not be any other couples present—and you will receive my personal, undivided attention the entire time. All the skill-building activities will be hand-tailored to you. This will be your own private retreat, exclusively for the two of you. This kind of couples retreat will enable you to repair major issues, disputes or conflicts quickly and effectively.
Master instruction in effective relationship skills and/or how to repair your relationship
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, and I have been in practice since 1980. My relationship advice has appeared in newspapers around the world. Learn more about my experience and qualifications →
Research shows the techniques are effective
The techniques I use from Imago Therapy have been scientifically shown to be effective. You don’t want to leave your relationship to chance.
What if we’re getting along well—or not married?
A couples retreat is not always centered around conflicts or disagreements. Frequently couples come because they want to deepen the connection and intimacy in their relationship, and an intensive couples therapy retreat offers the opportunity for closeness far more quickly than weekly couples counseling appointments can.
A couples retreat also makes a perfect gift for pre-marital couples, for newlyweds, or for long-married couples desiring to strengthen the connection, closeness and intimacy in their relationship. For non-married couples, a couples counseling retreat offers the same benefits as it does for married couples—if not more—since the best time to prevent any issue is before it starts.
This is equally effective for same-sex couples as well.
Can I expect lasting positive change from a Marriage Retreat?
That’s my intent. One way the two of you can help yourselves achieve that end is to create a list of goals you would like me to assist you in fixing, changing or resolving. Bring these goals into the first session, so that I can address your intentions throughout the entire marriage retreat. I may also guide the two of you to create a shared vision for the future of your relationship.