The specifics of your marriage therapy retreat will be hand-crafted to the issues or conflicts in your relationship, and as a result, every retreat is unique. We might work on communication, conflict resolution, trust, affection and romance—to name a few. But a marriage retreat will also include intensive assistance with specific problems or emotions unique to your relationship. The goal is to eliminate or reduce the power of those issues, or to forge agreements between the two of you so that those issues are reduced or extinguished entirely.

Here are some of the activities that are often included:

Day 1

  • Interview: What brings you two in and what are you wanting to achieve or accomplish?
  • Each person is invited to bring one issue they want resolved.
    • Facilitated dialogue using an entirely new set of “intimacy skills” designed to resolve these issues
    • Learn to use these skills yourselves at home so you will hopefully not need a marriage therapist in the future
  • Evaluating specifically where you could improve in the relationship–and where you would like your spouse/partner to improve.
  • Listening for the longing in your partner’s complaints
  • Here’s how to stop interrupting
  • Why communication so often fails in a relationship
  • Couple’s communication activity to assist you in connecting and warming up to each other

Day 2

  • Each person is invited to bring a second issue they want resolved, using the state-of-the-art intimacy skillset introduced yesterday.
  • What is empathy, how to be better at it–or how to do it.
  • Are you walled off? (self-evaluation)
  • Boundaries versus walls
    • Guided visualization to understand and explore your wall
    • How to make your wall more discretionary
  • Identifying detachment in your relationship
  • Invisible divorce: exploring all the ways you may be withdrawing and disconnecting from your relationship
  • Do you go into fight/flight or withdrawal as an autopilot response?
  • Communication skills
  • Deepening the connection between the two of you
  • Who gets your negative energy? Who most needs your positive energy?
  • Softening your tone and rhetoric, and making it safer to be in a relationship with you
  • Love languages: What languages do you normally offer, and which ones do you wish to receive?
  • Choosing peace over irritation

Day 3

  • Each person is invited to bring a third unresolved issue, using the new set of intimacy skills.
  • What do you think your spouse/partner is actually fighting about?
  • Forgiveness exercise
  • Rebuilding trust
  • What women really want
  • What is romance? How are you doing it, and how you could improve?
  • How to romance a woman
  • Sexual secrets every woman should know
  • Relationship wellness checkup
  • How to add more fun to your relationship
  • Emotional intelligence
  • Romantic intelligence
  • Becoming a “student” in your relationship
  • Accepting responsibility for your relationship
  • Specifically how you could improve as a spouse/partner
  • Creating a vision you’re shooting for: Goals for the future of your relationship
  • How do great couples make their relationship work so well?
  • Choosing peace instead of irritation
  • Answer these questions together to create a closer connection

Day 4

  • Anger reduction techniques
  • Forgiving the unforgivable
  • Letting go of grievances
  • Your safe place
  • Are you the seeker or the sought after?
  • How jealous are you?
  • Do you feel worthy of love?
  • Approach/avoidance syndrome
  • Are you controlling?
  • How critical are you?
  • Defensiveness
  • Financial issues and money conflicts
  • Deepening the relationship
  • Loss of sexual desire
  • Improve or restart your sex life
  • Early warning signs that your relationship is in trouble
  • How to prevent a divorce or a break-up
  • 10 ways to improve your relationship immediately
  • Ways to heal the wounds of your heart and reopen your heart yet again
  • The secrets of compatibility. Evaluating specifically where you could improve as a partner/spouse
  • That lovin’ feeling requires these behaviors
  • Anything left unfinished from days 1-3
  • Healing the wounds of the heart exercise

Breaks will be taken as needed. At the end of each day, you are free to do what you want. Dine in one of the many exquisite restaurants in the area, go to the beach, work on your tan, explore or just relax. There are plenty of fun things to do.